A couple years ago, I read Shonda Rhimes’ book “The Year of Yes!” and it intrigued me. So many people make New Year’s resolutions only to abandon their list by mid-February, if not sooner. I too have made those generic lists; lose weight, eat better, go to the gym, etc.
After reading the book I decided I would declare the upcoming year… the year of_______! What would I be willing to commit to for the year? I knew saying yes was out. I felt that for it to be the year of yes, I would have to have the freedom to say yes to everything. Being the overthinker that I am I knew that I did not have the time or the finances to make that type of commitment. How about the Year of No? You have heard that some people learn to say no, well maybe I need to say no to somethings but that just sounded so negative and limiting on new experiences.
I had decided that 2017 would be the Year of completing incompletes. There were a few things that I had started and wished to complete. They were not simple things that could be done if a few days, rather goals that could be completed within the year. First was completing the requirements for my Distinguished Toastmaster. I mapped out how many speeches and projects that I needed to complete by the end of April in order to be awarded DTM by our Spring Conference in May.
Next, I knew I wanted to complete the Jack Canfield Train the Trainer certification. I had wanted to complete the Train the Trainer program since August 2009. The program had evolved over the years and they broke the program into two. One is Train the Trainer online, which made it much more accessible to me. I signed up for that in 2015 but had made little progress. Just as I was finishing my work for the DTM I received an email from the Jack Canfield Group, they had a few spots left in the Train the Trainer Live 2017. I was able to find a way pay for the training and travel expense and was on my way to not only completing the online but the live as well. By November 2017, I had completed three of my incompletes! It felt great to no longer spend my time thinking about when I was going to get around to finishing those.
By December 2017, I again was faced with what would 2018 be the year of? Because of family circumstances, I decided on the year of change. This meant that I did not know what the year was going to hold for me but that I should hold an open space for change and go with the flow. This is very hard for me as I am someone who likes to plan things well in advance and think of all possible ways that the plan can go sideways and various ways to deal with it. To say that 2018 had change is an understatement. We sold our house in March. My husband passed away in May. I flew more miles this year than I have any other year. I visited new places. Took a road trip with two of my sons, my daughter in law and my two grandsons ages 2 1/2 and 1 years old.
So, what will 2019 be? I have decided that 2019 with be the year of health and wealth. I am not sure what exactly this will mean for me, or how it will manifest, but I am excited to see how if unfolds. In the comments below tell me what 2019 will be for you.
-Victoria Chadderton, Guest Blogger